Betty Lee’s dementia makes even getting ready for bed an ordeal. Here she heads into a darkened bathroom but becomes so confused that her husband, Cliff, will need to turn on the light for her. He told his friends at support group that he doesn’t get angry at Betty because it’s not her fault, but they urged him to probe deeper: “Don’t you get angry when your life is like this and it’s not what you expected?” Yes, Cliff told them. “I feel like the bottom has dropped out.”

[Times photo: Cherie Diez]