Climb out of that rut and grab your dreamsBy FRANK KAISER
© St. Petersburg Times
published April 29, 2003
According to Microsoft, what percentage of Americans older than 60 uses a computer? a) 25 percent, b) 40 percent, c) 65 percent.
Remember your dream? The one in which you were going to sketch beside a waterfall in Maui? Or sail a clipper ship to Tahiti? Or turn your hobby into a successful business, making work pleasurable again?
Yeah, that one. The one in which you write the Great American Novel, pose for the cover of Entertainment Weekly and live happily ever after.
Today, instead of clipper ships, waterfalls and South Sea breezes, you're clipping coupons for peanut butter, crossing borders for cheaper prescriptions and planning your shopping according to which store has the "Senior Specials."
What the hell happened?
Dumb question, huh? You had to raise a family. You had to work. Maybe you had to care for your parents. All sorts of things interfered.
And you got old.
Thing is, once we stop dreaming, we stop living. Without a dream, we're just taking up space. As someone said to me the other day, "The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth."
Unfortunately, most of us don't have the resources to fulfill our earlier dreams of, say, trekking the Himalayas or collecting post-World War II British sports cars. Actually, our resources are far more valuable, for they include our energy, our enthusiasm and our unique talents just waiting to be developed. It's everything you need to become alive again, chasing do-able dreams that rejuvenate and satisfy more than a dozen old Jaguar XK-120s.
The alternative is mental and spiritual rot. Haven't we all had a retired aunt or uncle who sat around all day, every day - abdicating life, believing that was what retirement was all about? Folks who did nothing to enliven their brains and bodies but fill their mouths with complaints until they died, perhaps from boredom. So sad.
Isn't it time to develop a new dream? And make that dream a reality?
A friend with whom I played bassoon in high school found an amateur orchestra in her retirement community and, within a year of buying a relatively cheap bassoon on eBay, she was performing the solo in Sorcerer's Apprentice. Her grandchildren gave her a standing ovation.
I know a retired lady named Peg who last year decided to get up off the couch on which she'd been potatoing and take free community college art courses, something she always wanted to do but never before had the time. Today she's among the happiest people I know. She paints daily, filling those hours that used to be long and boring with creativity and excitement. This month, she has an exhibit at the town library, and just last week she sold her first painting. For real money!
There are retired folks out there - millions of them - making new dreams come true every day. Many find fulfillment by helping others. I'm not talking bake sales here. According to the Wall Street Journal, 24-million Americans age 55 and older serve as volunteers, many finding positions with influence, authority and power.
Like investigating and determining the needs of abused and neglected kids. Or patrolling their neighborhoods with Community Watch. Or working with the homeless. Check out the Web site www.2young2retire.com/ for dozens of dynamic ideas.
Want the challenge of a lifetime?
Teach illiterate adults to read. To 24-million adult Americans, this column could be about Russian oil production. Imagine the satisfaction of opening the world of words to an illiterate adult. I must warn you from personal experience, teaching literacy, not the Peace Corps, is the hardest job you'll ever love. For information, call 1-888-528-2224. Not to say that joining the Peace Corps is dull. A 77-year-old friend of mine just returned from his second PC gig: an exciting stint in Estonia. He's wondering where he'll go next.
I know folks older than 60 who are enjoying second careers in photography, model building and cooking - mere hobbies before they retired.
If you find yourself in a rut without dreams, you'd better move fast before they think you're dead, and bury you.
Suddenly Trivia Answer: a) 25 percent
- Frank Kaiser is a nationally syndicated columnist living in Clearwater. His Web site, www.suddenlysenior.com includes nostalgia, trivia, senior humor and 111 Best Senior Links. Write Frank c/o Seniority, the Times, P.O. Box 1121, St. Petersburg, FL 33731 or e-mail at email@example.com
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