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Largo official preparing for sex change

Times Exclusive: City Manager Steve Stanton told the Times this morning he is undergoing counseling and treatments.  He plans to remain in his city position.

By LORRI HELFAND
Published February 21, 2007


Steve Stanton, married with a teenaged son, said he has thought of becoming a woman since childhood.

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    LARGO — The mayor at his side, longtime Largo City Manager Steve Stanton disclosed to the St. Petersburg Times on Wednesday he is undergoing hormone therapy and counseling in preparation for a sex-change operation.

    Through the process, which could take well over a year, Stanton plans to remain as the chief executive of this city of 76,000. He has the support of Mayor Pat Gerard, who was elected last March.

    “He’s a dedicated city manager and puts his job first,” she said.

    Stanton, 48, said he eventually will change his name to Susan, the name his late mother would have given him if he had been a girl.

    Married with a teenaged son, Stanton said he has thought of becoming a woman since childhood. In recent years, he said he has gone to clubs, the symphony and the grocery store as a woman, but only in places like Orlando, Jacksonville and Atlanta.

    Stanton, with Gerard’s support, had planned to go public in June so his son could be out of town when the news broke. But that changed this week after the Times heard of possible changes in Stanton’s life and approached him.

    He and Gerard met a reporter at a private city office Wednesday morning and described in detail his decision and plans. After the interview, he began telling department managers, secretaries and others at the city.

    Stanton has not scheduled surgery. He would be one of the few public officials anywhere to change his gender while in office.

    Stanton has been Largo’s city manager 14 years. He and Gerard both said they believe he can continue as the city manager during and after the change.

    “I’m good at my job,” said Stanton, who makes $140,234 annually for supervising about 1,200 employees and a budget of $130-million. “My gender has nothing to do with my capabilities.”

    Stanton and Gerard acknowledged that some people in Largo probably won’t accept his choice. But they have been working on a plan to educate people inside and outside City Hall about the process.

    “It’s not in my nature to flee a challenge,” Stanton said. “I can’t. I won’t. It’s not in my repertoire of experience.”

    The mayor agreed.

    “I don’t believe he should have to go away and hide out and have to re-emerge,” said Gerard, who is chief operating officer of Family Resources Inc., a nonprofit social service agency. “The fact that we do that as a society is pitiful.”

    Stanton decided to seriously consider gender-reassignment surgery after Largo city commissioners refused in 2003 to approve a proposed human rights ordinance that would have protected transgendered people. Stanton had supported passage of the ordinance, but did not take on a leading role in the contentious debate that led up to the vote.

    He began discussing his private life with a therapist who spoke at City Hall in support of the ordinance, and that led to his decision, he said.

    Around Largo, Stanton is known for his forceful management style, a willingness to take on controversy and a zest for participating in rugged activities.


    In recent years, for example, he has donned a bulletproof vest to go along on a police raid of a nightclub and broke his nose participating in SWAT training. Within the last week, he rappelled inside the dome at Tropicana Field during a fire department training exercise and dug up a median near a fire station as part of a public works project.

    But he said the process of changing his gender, which includes hormone therapy and electrolysis to remove body and facial hair, is the bravest thing he’s ever done.

    “I want to do this with a sense of dignity and worth,” Stanton said. “It’s going to take more courage than anything I’ve ever done.”

    Lorri Helfand can be reached at lorri@sptimes.com or (727) 445-4155.

    [Last modified February 21, 2007, 14:43:56]


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    by Sidney 08/08/07 02:38 AM
    if your good at your job there should be not question about sexual preference
    by Sarah 04/16/07 12:12 PM
    The story should have been presented with the context that she was outed by the reporter. The way you addressed the issue indicates an institutional media bias against transpeople. You should be ashamed for the pain you have caused.
    by Rich 04/10/07 11:15 PM
    When Stanton was hired, he was hired as Steven, a male with a family. He was not hired as Susan, female with a family. Saying people are judging the man is wrong. If the people of Largo do not want this person representing them, that it their chce
    by MissM 03/30/07 12:49 PM
    Why is it, if someone disagrees with what Mr. Stanton is doing, they are a bigot? I am not passing judgement on his decision for surgery. I am questioning his ability to be honest and forthright after lying to his wife for 13 years. He got married.
    by Jordyn 03/16/07 06:35 PM
    this mike person should reconsider their statement. why should someone have to step down from a position their good at if they get surgery? if they believe that, this "mike" person is no better than the rest of the bigots in America.
    by Teri 03/05/07 11:25 PM
    The Bible never gave the self riteous the authority to judge. Only God has that right. He also does not teach us to hate and be bigots. This is how man has spread this and make it right or Religous Right.
    by Margo 03/03/07 07:48 AM
    Shame on you, Largo! Are also prepared to fire anyone who get divorced (obvious poor judgment) or seeks IVF to have a child (clearlty not satisfied with their God-given biology).
    by mike 03/02/07 10:26 AM
    1 of 2.. see previous post. I do think, however, that a lifestyle choice such as this requires a time for acclimation. I think he should work with the city to find a replacement, step down, and be reconsidered again in a year.
    by mike 03/02/07 10:15 AM
    1 of 2.. I cringe when I read comments that "Jesus would want him terminated". Jesus is the epitome of love and acceptance. I believe Jesus aggressively DISAPPROVES of the choices this man is making, but loves him nonetheless. see next post:
    by Nikki 03/01/07 09:02 PM
    These Christians should read Matthew 19:11 to learn JESUS AGREED WITH SEX CHANGES. Only back then they called 'making one's self a eunuch, for the kingdom of heaven's sake" Poor pitiful people, with a 'board' in their own eye.
    by Angel 02/28/07 08:02 PM
    You cannot fire someone because of their religion, beliefs, race, or psychological disorder. So if Steve has been doing a good job; Steve should keep his job. Only later if Susan cannot do the job, then and only then should she be fired.
    by Karl 02/28/07 03:13 PM
    A recent N.Y. court ruled that the taxpayers should pay for a city workers sex change operation. See link. http://www.nypost.com/seven/02252007/news/regionalnews/free_to_be_he_she_regionalnews_janon_fisher_____and_leela_de_kretser.htm
    by CarolAnne 02/27/07 06:15 PM
    If the man is a dedicated city manager who puts his job first - I'm certain the woman will do the same. A person's sex has no standing in a person's ability to do a job well. Congratulations to Susan.
    by Mandie 02/27/07 04:28 PM
    Congrats to Susan. How about the rest of society worry about their own families that are falling apart!? You are not GOD. You can not judge and in doing so you are acting as God. I don't know what sin is more grand than acting as God.
    by David 02/27/07 03:35 PM
    As a minister and a transgender man who transitioned while pastoring a church I understand very well coming out in the "fishbowl." Susan, know that you are saving lives and giving a great gift to your family by living your truth. God bless you.
    by Sara 02/26/07 07:12 PM
    I am part of the transgendered community and personally see the pain that transgendered individuals endure trying to be the person other people see, but which truly doesn't it with their inner being. It takes real courage to stand up. Hugs to Susan!
    by Sara 02/26/07 06:55 PM
    This woman is doing what her soul has been telling her since birth. I pray you fully support her decision and turn a deaf ear to the criticism from people who do not fully understand. She did not choose this path. Who would?
    by JR 02/26/07 07:52 AM
    Who cares what he wants personally, it's about whether or not the taxpayers have to pay for it. If he wants to be Sue, he can write the check. Guy seems very self-absorbed.
    by Mavis 02/26/07 12:29 AM
    WHY. did you ever marry and have a son that will hurt him the rest of his life. Like every one in largo knows you only think of you. How can you believe anyone has any trust in you. GO AWAY>
    by pat 02/25/07 04:43 PM
    This has nothing to do about hate, intolerance, or God. It has to do with a prominant, political figure who is using his position for acceptance of gender change. How uncomfortable for the 1200 emloyees that have to endure his "dress" in the city.
    by Norma 02/25/07 03:34 PM
    Steve Stanton can think he's a woman. Steve Stanton can think he's an apple, a orange, people have been known to think that their jusanything. Just because someone dyes their hair blonde doesn't mean that their a blonde for at the root is the truth.
    by Sam 02/25/07 09:05 AM
    Gender changing is a personnaL matter. Stanton shouls not use Largo resources to educate employees and have the police chief give vail threats to them. I don't know of any religons "GOD" that condones this or any other dievent behavior. RESIGN.
    by Angela 02/25/07 03:06 AM
    I am a transsexual, it's a birth defect in which a person is born with mixed gender. It's an incredibly painful and confusing condition made worse by a deeply entrenched religious bigotry that condemns the victims instead of helping them.
    by Eve 02/24/07 08:50 PM
    This is neither "brave" nor "selfish". It is survival! It is dealing with a lifelong issue when all efforts to suppress it have failed. It beats suicide, and as long as the wife and son have love, they will survive just fine. -- One Who Knows
    by Mason 02/24/07 06:29 PM
    Everyone needs to focus on the one thing they can help, and that is prayer for Mr. Stanton, his wife, and his son. It does no good bashing him, he is confused and i am sure his family is hurt. Good luck to the Stanton family.
    by Breanna 02/24/07 02:03 AM
    Ms. Stanton is indeed courageous to face down the inevitable backlash from the uninformed. She and her family deserve a dignified transition so that she can get on with her life in the manner she chooses.
    by Jamison 02/23/07 10:36 PM
    It's so easy to call Stanton's situation "self centered and selfish" and refuse to understand her intense struggle to survive. Most transsexual people are successful contributors to their communities. Ms. Stanton deserves respect and understanding.
    by Shawna 02/23/07 06:50 PM
    How good a father can someone be who is constantly uncomfortable with himself, depressed perhaps, and lying about his feelings? Better that he should show his son how to be an honest and whole person, despite the growing pains.
    by Angela 02/23/07 03:28 PM
    Why do this now? What about the wife and son? Why live the lie long enough to bring another life into this world. I feel Mr. Stanton is extremely self centered and selfish and should have considered the repercussions long before he ever got married.
    by Jonas 02/23/07 11:17 AM
    Like Johnny Cash said...It aint easy being a boy named Sue.
    by Largo Bizman 02/23/07 10:12 AM
    OK-he can do whatever he wants, that's his right. But what about his teenage son and wife? How could you do that to your family? You created a bond to be a father the moment you decided to have your child. Now what kind of father will you be?
    by Ray 02/23/07 09:27 AM
    It's apparent this man needs prayer. He has put his own feeling before his wife and child. How sad for them. How sad for him.
    by Michelle 02/23/07 09:09 AM
    Staunton's condition, called gender identity dysphoria, is a legitimate medical condition and should be treated with respect. Transitioning to female is medical treatment, not PR stunt. And how this affects Staunton's family is no one's business.
    by Vivien 02/23/07 03:03 AM
    Susan is not evil! It seems that a lot of people should study Transexualism and develop some understanding of what it must be like to never, ever feel right with ones self! How it must affect the family when one feels that way!
    by Vivien 02/23/07 02:54 AM
    She is obviously very honest as well as loyal to her people! It takes a lot of courage to let everyone know her feelings and deep secrets! I bet many people who complain about her have the same feelings as she does and probably same secrets! Hmmm?
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