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Irate dad roughs up son's coach

He says the man threatened his wife during an argument last week.

By CAMILLE C. SPENCER
Published February 26, 2007


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ODESSA - He stormed onto the baseball practice field, all 280 pounds of him, and declared war.

With an audience of half a dozen preteen players, Howard Behlau snatched a bat from the hands of his 12-year-old son's coach Friday morning.

Then he grabbed coach Andy Contafio by his collar and dragged him off the field. He put him in a headlock, put his knee to the man's chest and pushed him to the ground, according to a Pasco Sheriff's Office report.

Soon after Behlau left, authorities were summoned. Late Friday, a deputy called Behlau and asked to meet. When they met at a 7-Eleven in Odessa Saturday, Behlau, 51, of Odessa was arrested and charged with simple battery. He spent four hours in jail.

Behlau, a certified public accountant, says he normally would never lay a hand on another human being.

"It really had nothing to do with baseball other than this argument that preceded between my wife and him," Behlau said.

It began Tuesday. Contafio said he called Behlau's wife, Jayne. What the two discussed is a matter of dispute.

Contafio said he told Jayne Behlau that her son, a star player who joined the Florida Panthers AAU team last fall, should find another league to play in. Contafio said he heard Jayne Behlau and her husband call their son's teammates "worthless," and that he was releasing the boy from the team.

"It was a cancer, and I had to remove the cancer," he said.

But Jayne Behlau said Contafio never released her son from the team, and that he threatened her.

"He was on a rant," Behlau said. "He said, 'You better watch out.' I said, 'Are you threatening me?' He said 'My cards are on the table. Take it as you will.' "

Jayne Behlau told her husband about the phone call. He stewed with anger and decided to go to practice. He wanted Contafio to pay.

"I was going to make him apologize," Howard Behlau said. "It was a stupid thing, but I had to do it. I wasn't going to let him browbeat my wife."

Behlau said he spoke openly with his son about the altercation that occurred while the boy was nearby in a parking lot with his mother.

"I wanted it to be a lesson to him," he said of his son. "I said, 'This guy was mean to Mom.' Sometimes, you just gotta do what you gotta do. There's very few occasions where you would ever want to break the law."

[Last modified February 26, 2007, 07:11:03]


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by Steve 02/28/07 05:28 PM
I'm disappointed to see so many of you on the side of the attacker. There was never any excuse for the violence. People like that are ruining our society, and people who support those actions are helping them succeed at it.
by Paula 02/26/07 11:29 PM
Hmmmm, bet dad was a bully in school too!
by MiMi 02/26/07 10:06 PM
Anyone who physically assaults another feels the acts are justified or else they wouldn't have done it.We only have Howard's word that the coach talked mean to his wife.What if he lied?What if she lied?Self restraint doesn't seem in character here.
by Susan 02/26/07 09:44 PM
Paul... you defend this abuser, yet you have no clue as to what was even said to his wife. Any dispute should have been discussed civily with the coach, out of the ear shot and view of the players. Their is no excuse at all for his behavior.
by Marilyn 02/26/07 08:52 PM
Sounds like the poor kid already learned from his parents (calling the other kids worthless) "Great" parenting Behlaus!
by Jack 02/26/07 08:44 PM
Howard Behlau is JERK.
by laura 02/26/07 08:15 PM
Kind of gives CPA a whole new meaning! What an idiot!! Doesn't he realize that he just ended his sons playing career?? No coach in their right mind now would take on a player with such "parental" baggage as this kid has. He should be sued by everyone
by Laura 02/26/07 07:40 PM
sounds like a setup. Another family bites the dust for an agenda.
by David 02/26/07 06:37 PM
Thumbs up to the dad. Many of the little league coaches are out of line. They expect little Johnny to be Johnny Bench. But when the parents are around, their tune changes. Had this coach spoke ill of my wife, he would have been forced to apologize.
by Sue 02/26/07 06:06 PM
What a classy guy.
by Sal 02/26/07 05:53 PM
Jailtime please! He had to do what he had to do, and so should the judge...
by Paul 02/26/07 04:51 PM
Aboslutely the right thing to do! You guys would let someone talk that way to your wife?? What a bunch of wuss people you are then. I say he did the right thing. Too bad the coach didn't get a black eye out of it as well.
by Rich 02/26/07 04:09 PM
Sounds like the Dad is probably lying to cover up his aggressive behavior. You don't go from never touching another human being, to storming a baseball field over being mean to his wife.
by John 02/26/07 03:44 PM
Another one of those "gentle giants" who lose it and say "I'm sorry". Should go to jail with all the other "gentle giants".
by Paul 02/26/07 03:09 PM
Sticks and Stones.....
by Shawn 02/26/07 03:08 PM
nd that is what is wrong with this county! Yes, the guy was wrong for doing it with kids and other people around but he should be standing up for his family.
by Nancy 02/26/07 02:42 PM
What's this world coming to? Pretty soon they'll have to ban the parents from their kids' sporting events if this is the kind of garbage that goes on. What a jerk this guy is.
by Rob 02/26/07 02:07 PM
This guy just doesn't get it. He thinks he is justified and is teaching his son how to stand up to someone. He doesn't realize HE is the problem. Since when do harsh words become enough of a reason to become physical? What a role model!
by John 02/26/07 01:55 PM
Mr. Behlau is an underdeveloped adult lacking the self-control of the average 5 year old. If this is how he's raising his kids - I look forward to seeing them in jail too. "This guy was mean to mom?" What an idiot.
by Chris 02/26/07 01:52 PM
Stupid is as stupid does.
by MiMi 02/26/07 01:39 PM
I agree with Gil.My husband coached a first place team and put up with parents like this.I only hope the other kid's parents sue him for emotional distress.Get a life Howard.
by Richard 02/26/07 01:17 PM
Gil, I resent the fact that you lump this man in with "typical" little league parents. Behlau's actions were NOT typical of any little league parent that I've been around in my last 8 years of coaching little leaguers.
by Karen 02/26/07 12:47 PM
Boy, He really taught his son a leason, didn't he. You jump some one, you end up in jail.
by Melinda 02/26/07 12:39 PM
This family needs counseling or the kid will grow into a menace to society.
by Jim 02/26/07 12:33 PM
Kudos! to the man who stood up for his wife. The coach should not be threatening any man's wife.
by Gil 02/26/07 12:02 PM
Typical little league parent.
by John 02/26/07 11:57 AM
What a "good lesson" this father taught his son!! I suspect that we will someday read of the father and the son again. Though next time it will be for something far more serious. This boy has been trained to attack by his father.
by Bill 02/26/07 11:53 AM
Yeah...good lesson for your son. If somebody says something you don't like just beat them up. I hope you rot in jail.
by Sarah 02/26/07 11:48 AM
This is the best lesson this guy could teach his son? Fisticuffs? What about compromise, discussion, reasoned resolution?
by Dick 02/26/07 11:47 AM
I go to a lot of the young ball player games. The coaches all show parschallty to their and their friends kids for positions, not who plays the position best.I see it all the time . I don`t have kids so you see I`M NOT PARCHTEL.
by Candi 02/26/07 11:47 AM
HOT HEAD! glad I don't live with him ha ha He will go to jail on that. Maybe he will cool down, sound's like he need's couseling. But the coach shouldn't have spoken that way to the wife eaither, maybe they both need couceling
by gary 02/26/07 11:34 AM
If this professional? a CPA had a dispute because of a phone call why did he not discuss it with the coach instead of setting a bad example for all the team to see. This moron didn't even think about it, he even tried to justfy it to his son.
by Brant 02/26/07 11:33 AM
Great lesson to teach your kid. Throw the book at the moron for battery. That will teach junior another valuable lesson.
by Michael 02/26/07 10:45 AM
Why oh why lord do I never get the chance to kick the crap out of a jerk like this?????
by Lail 02/26/07 10:24 AM
Ugh. Yet another sad, sad example of modern-day "parenting." What kind of lesson are you really teaching your son, Mr Behlau?!!! Someone is "mean" to mom, so the answer is to DECK him?! This bully parenting has got to stop!
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