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To rid kids of fat, first banish word 'fat'

Parents search for ways to get their children to lose pounds without developing a complex.

By ALICIA ULFERTS
Published April 8, 2007


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Nursing student Ashley Howe checks Jalen Facyson's body mass index at a KidShapers class at All Childrens Hospital's conference center in St. Petersburg. The program's goal is to get children and their families to eat healthier and exercise.
[Times photos: Bob Croslin]
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Registered dietitian Melanie Newkirk measures Jalen's height and weight. The 12-year-old has found that he likes healthy foods like broccoli, collard greens and bananas with sugar-free yogurt.

Lori Estes spent nearly two years searching for a program to help her stepdaughter develop healthy eating habits and an appreciation for exercise.

It took that long, Estes said, because she wanted to be sure the program didn't lead to the unintended consequences so many parents fear when talking to their children about weight.

"As a parent, if you don't handle it correctly, you can send a child into patterns of anorexia or other bad eating," Estes said.

It's a problem more parents face as studies and statistics continue to chart the increase of overweight and obese children: how to get children to develop a healthy relationship with food and exercise when all around them are images both of the dangerously overweight and the dangerously underweight.

When it comes to being overweight, the numbers are staggering: An estimated 25-million children 17 and under are obese or overweight, about a third of the population for that age group, according to Census Bureau data and a 2006 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association.

That's leading more pediatricians to diagnose children with type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure, ailments traditionally associated with adult populations.

The enormousness of the problem, and its potential to drive up already high medical costs, led the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation to commit $500-million this month to the study of childhood obesity.

And Gov. Charlie Crist called on the Legislature last month to require physical education classes every day for elementary school students to help fight the growing problem.

At the same time, the fashion industry is coming under fire for allowing alarmingly thin models to strut the catwalks of New York, London, Madrid and other fashion capitals. Last year, Spanish officials banned from fashion shows models who have a body mass index, or BMI, of less than 18 after two South American models died of complications of anorexia nervosa.

BMI is a common measure of body fat that is based on height and weight. Anything below 18.5 is considered underweight, 25 and over is overweight and 30 and over is obese.

That juxtaposition is why Estes took her time researching programs that could help 12-year-old Shianne eat healthier foods without using the term "diet" or leading the sixth-grader to believe she had done something wrong and was being punished.

She, Shianne and Shianne's mother found the answer in KidShapers, a weight management and fitness program for families at All Children's Hospital. Shianne lives with her father and stepmother Estes, but frequently stays with her mother. So both women attended the eight-week program with Shianne.

"Now if she wants a snack, I frequently find her sitting in the kitchen reading labels," Estes said of the program's impact on Shianne.

Dr. Mark Cavitt, a child psychiatrist, helped develop the program and a screening questionnaire the hospital uses to determine whether families really are ready for the challenge.

When it comes to approaching a child who has or is developing a weight problem, Cavitt says the best thing to do is deal with what is very frequently a factor in the child's overeating: the diet and exercise habits of the entire family.

"It really is about what the family does," Cavitt said. "You're not singling out the child or adolescent but are saying, 'We have a problem,' " Cavitt said.

There's no downside to the entire family eating healthier foods, taking note of portion size and getting out as a group in the evenings for a family walk or bike ride. That not only takes the pressure off the overweight child, but also allows him or her to emulate the good eating habits of the parents, Cavitt said.

"Start making lifestyle changes as a family," Cavitt said.

That's what KidShapers emphasizes, said program dietician Sarah Krieger. Children must be referred to the program by their physician, and one program leader works with the parents while others work with the children, she said.

"The No. 1 thing is we do not use the word 'diet,' " Krieger said. "We really just focus on making small behavior changes," she said.

For example, one child might promise to try two different fruits or vegetables each week. For another child, a change may be the agreement to eat breakfast at home instead of asking for fast food.

That's how Jalen Facyson, 12, discovered that he liked bananas with sugar-free yogurt. He was surprised by how many healthy foods he learned to like in the program.

"I love broccoli. I love collard greens," the St. Petersburg fifth-grader said between fitness tests last month on his last night in the program. "I really like walking a lot."

That's music to Krieger's ears, because it's so hard to tear children away from television, computer or video games and get them moving.

A survey conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation in 2005 found that children spend an average of 6 1/2 hours every day watching television or using computers and other electronics.

"We call that screen time. Technology has really increased the sedentary lifestyle," Krieger said.

Points for parents

AVOID USING WORDS LIKE "DIET" OR "FAT." Instead, use words like "healthy" and "fun" when talking about food and exercise.

GET EVERYONE INVOLVED. Preparing healthy meals together and then going for a walk or bike ride can be great family time and is healthier than watching television together.

BE A GOOD EXAMPLE. Don't eat too much - or too little. Don't obsess about your weight or anyone else's. Get involved in a sport or other physical activity. Learn to appreciate health and your children will, too.

 

[Last modified April 7, 2007, 18:05:31]


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by mary 04/18/07 11:55 AM
Good job! I,as a research nurse and mother and grandmother, applaud the work you are doing. My organic garden is a great way for me to 'practice what I preach' to all the members of my family!
by sb 04/13/07 04:21 PM
WOW and we wonder why kids turn to anorexia and bulemia to be thin. such great attitudes towards "heavier" people on this board. you must all be thin and perfect.
by Tania 04/11/07 08:17 PM
It was wonderful!!!
by Kellie 04/10/07 12:07 PM
The article is very helpful to those parents who struggle with this issue everyday. Those who think otherwise obviously do not have children. The comments mentioned on line are full of ignorance and come from those who are uneducated on this topic!
by SLIM 04/09/07 02:35 AM
i,m sorry but doesnt this go against, the teaching. IN ORDER TO OVERCOME A PROBLEM, YOU MUST FIRST ADMIT, THERE IS A PROBLEM?????
by Chris 04/08/07 07:48 PM
This world has definitely gone to the "soft". Why do we have to sugar-coat everyhting. If you are Fat and Lazy, well, you are fat and lazy. When I was a kid of about 13-14 years old, someone said I was fat, what did I do, I found ways to exercise.
by Chris 04/08/07 07:47 PM
When someone tells you are a fat, get motivated, and do something about it. And, no, "I have a thyroid problem" is not an excuse, you are just fat and lazy.
by Paul 04/08/07 06:52 PM
You show the kid getting weighed and measured. That isn't going to do much... show a picture of him running laps or swimming or bicycle riding. I can tell you, he'll feel alot better than being poked and prodded.
by Paul 04/08/07 04:05 PM
Parents set the example for their children. Healty parents = healty kids. Fat parents (Yes FAT) = fat kids. Lead by example. Forget this nonsense of calling someone plump/rotund/big boned-call a spade a spade-these people are just plain FAT !
by Linda 04/08/07 03:04 PM
About time that we teach children healthy living. Including the family not only improves everyone's life but encurages family time.
by Saddam 04/08/07 10:23 AM
Again you make my job easy. No individual responsibility for your fat infidel offspring. "We have a problem": our lazy, undisciplined child is a glutton. Hah! Bon appetite!
by Jim 04/08/07 09:55 AM
My son is 13, heavy, loves to play sports, but he receives 4-5 hours of homework/night from honor's classes. He gets home and other than dinner, has no free time to play or exercise and yes, we do the homework with not for him so it's hard on us too!
by Doughboy 04/08/07 09:36 AM
I've been getting a little fun around the waist lately.
by BELINDA 04/08/07 05:22 AM
Been fat since I was little,always heard "you'd be so pretty if you were thin". I had one daughter who was way overweight and I decided to forbid anyone to remark on it to her.She found info on her own, lost over 75 lbs and manages her wt just fine!!
by rebecca 04/07/07 09:27 PM
POLEEZZE. The kids are FAT. Parents buy the food. Parents feed the kids. FAT is FAT. Stop trying to make FAT kids feel good about themselves. Stop feeding them. Do what is really going to make them less FAT.
by Marnie 04/07/07 07:23 PM
When my sons began to gain prepubescent weight, I encouraged them to join team sports at their schools and in municipal leagues. They not only exercised, but they developed a sense of sportmanship and pride in their teams. We ate together at home.
by Cara 04/07/07 07:06 PM
These kids eat themselves into oblivion, play video games instead of being outside or playing games to exercise the mind then do not want to be called fat? I blame the parents and the kids. Exercise. Less video games. Stop coddling t
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