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Encounters

A lost airman

An old trunk at a garage sale starts a quest to unlock its secrets.

By RODNEY THRASH
Published May 28, 2007


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Susan Zaffater bought a trunk at a garage sale in Inverness that belonged to Ralph Wildenhaus, a World War II pilot. Among the items, a rosary given to the pilot at his first communion. She's returning the items to Wildenhaus' surviving relatives.
[John Pendygraft | Times]
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Displayed are some of the items found in a suitcase belonging to Ralph Wilenhaus, a deceased World War II pilot.

Susan Zaffater has been to enough garage sales to know when something is junk. The trunk was special. She didn't even need to search inside it to know that.

The lid was open. It was Army green, rusted, made of particle board. What got her was the folded American flag, each corner neatly tucked, on top.

The seller wanted $20. Susan's husband, Joe, reached into his pocket.

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The trunk is nearly 3 feet wide, 1 foot tall. On top, in orange stencil, it says:

LT. R.B. WILDENHAUS

U.S.A.A.F

Last weekend, she rummaged through the box, trying to piece together this man's life.

Under the flag, she found his 8 by 10 military photograph. His pilot goggles rest atop his head. His smile is soft, not one of those macho half-smiles.

"His eyes say, 'Look at me. Look what I've accomplished, ' " Susan said the other day, holding the sepia-toned picture in her den in St. Pete Beach. "Can you see that?"

Digging further, she found military enlistment papers, a driver's license, a newspaper clipping and letters that tell the rest of the story:

The "R" on the trunk stands for Ralph, the "B" for Bernard.

Home was Dayton, Ohio, on a street named Clover. He was 5 feet 7 1/4 inches tall and 155 pounds, with blue eyes and brown hair.

His wife, Betty Jane, is the first picture in his wallet, and the second.

He was Catholic. The trunk contains rosaries, even his first Communion book - given to him by an aunt and uncle on May 19, 1929.

He was a pilot stationed, at one point, at Brooks Field, Texas. He was a good pilot; heaps of newspaper articles, medals and other awards prove it.

A commendation from President Franklin D. Roosevelt says that on April 18, 1943, he was killed in a mission near Florida City. He was 21.

More than 300 people signed the memorial book at his funeral in Ohio.

In the trunk are unopened Western Union telegrams and letters from the War Department that, presumably, Betty Jane couldn't bear to open.

Betty Jane eventually moved on. An invitation in the chest announces her marriage to another man.

The footlocker was no longer just a box. It had a name, a face, a story.

But the story needed an ending.

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Last Monday, Joe Zaffater went online and typed: Wildenhaus, Dayton, Ohio.

Three names appeared at the top of the screen.

It took a couple of tries, but eventually Susan reached a Wildenhaus cousin, who connected her with Rosemary Brun.

You don't know me, Susan said on the phone. Then she explained that she had bought a trunk full of the personal effects of a World War II pilot.

She asked: Do you know Ralph Bernard Wildenhaus?

Yes, Rosemary said. He was my brother.

The women started crying together.

Rosemary was 16 when her brother died. She said the back end of a B-25 he piloted fell off and the plane went down. Eight people were on board. It took authorities two days to find her brother.

She is 80 now, living in Dayton. She had never seen the photos from his military days. She only knows that Betty Jane, pregnant when Ralph died, lost the baby after the funeral. Betty Jane died about 10 years ago.

Rosemary can only guess how the trunk ended up at a garage sale in Floral City. Betty Jane had an adopted son, now dead, who lived in Florida, so he may have brought it here.

Brun offered to pay to have the trunk shipped to Ohio. Then she discovered where Susan lives - 45 minutes from her son in Palm Harbor. He could pick up the trunk.

The two women kept talking by phone and e-mail.

Susan scanned Ralph's photo and e-mailed it to Rosemary, who saw it for the first time.

"Saturday, this man was by himself, " Susan said. "And look at him now. He's going to be brought home and celebrated."

Rodney Thrash can be reached at 727 893-8352 or rthrash@sptimes.com.

 

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Encounters is dedicated to small but meaningful stories. Sometimes they will play out far from the tumult of the daily news; sometimes they may be part of the news. To comment or suggest an idea for a story, contact editor Mike Wilson at mike@sptimes.com or (727)892-2924.

 

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by Fireman Tim LA 06/04/07 11:52 PM
My Grandparents (Clarence & Ruth) told me when I was a grandkid all about "Ralphie."I am a LA County Fireman and I am so Happy to see "Ralphie come home"!God Bless you Susan for bringing closure and happiness to the "Brun Family/Wildenhaus"! Thanks!
by Barb 05/31/07 06:40 PM
Thank you Susan for your warm and generous spirit. Mom, Dad, my brothers and sister are anxiously awaiting the return of Ralph to our family.
by Carol 05/30/07 10:43 PM
My Mom, Ruth, was the oldest of the 4 Wildenhaus children, and she called him "Ralphie". He's always had a special place in my heart through Mom's loving memories. God Bless You for your efforts, Susan. What a touching page for our family legacy.
by Jasmine-Danzey-Cindy 05/30/07 02:33 PM
We are glad that you could do justice for Ralph and his family. Because of you he will be home soon. Hopefully this will give them some closure. -Sarasota Team
by Pat 05/30/07 01:12 PM
This is a very touching story. I am so proud to be an American and know that this young man's belongings are being sent back to the family to pass this piece of history on to his nieces and nephews who never got a chance to know him. Beatuiful story!
by Susan-Joe 05/30/07 08:13 AM
Ralph will begin the next leg home on Thursdy when his nephew, George comes by to pick up the foot locker and contents. God Speed, Ralph - it has been an honor to be a small part of your life.
by Sue 05/30/07 07:44 AM
What a wonderful gift this was to my mother and our family. We are all grateful to Susan for bringing to life the uncle we never knew, and the brother my mom loved so much. This beautiful story willl now be part of our family history. Thank you.
by Jerry 05/29/07 05:07 PM
My father Gerald Sr (also called 'Jerry') was Ralph's brother. I would hear so much about the uncle I never knew who died before I was born. I wish that I had known him. Thank you Susan and Rodney for 'bringing Ralph back' for this Memorial Day.
by Dick 05/29/07 02:07 PM
Ralph was my uncle and Betty Jane my aunt. He had a brother Gerald who wan a Captain in SAC and died in July, 1954. The loss of two sons devastated my grandparents who were the lovingest & sweetest folks ever. Thank you Susan
by Tim 05/29/07 01:15 PM
What a beautiful story. I read this on Memorial Day and cried. I am glad he made it back home.
by Rosemary 05/28/07 11:20 PM
I am the last member of Ralph's family, and will be forever grateful to Susan and also Rodney for bringing Ralph home
by Dusty 05/28/07 07:46 PM
Susan is my sister and this doesn't surprise me at all. She's got a heart the size of the State of Florida. I'm proud of her and Joe. Love you Sis!
by Carol 05/28/07 03:35 PM
My brother Joe just called me with his and Susan's touching find. This story is made even more poignant today, Memorial Day, and I am so happy to know that this young man will rest easier now that his belongings will be with his family.
by Lorraine 05/28/07 02:12 PM
What a heartwarming story, and so fitting on this day of remembering those who have served our country so well. The Zaffater's are to be commended on continuing the search for the family of Lt. Wildenhaus!
by Jeep 05/28/07 01:06 PM
Great article. If more Americans took the time to do right and respect each other, our next generation would have something to emulate.
by John 05/28/07 11:33 AM
The journey is complete......a great story for Memorial Day...Thank you
by Kathy 05/28/07 11:31 AM
This is greattttttttttttt story for Memorial Day remembrances. Made me cry and made me smile. Thanks.
by Linda 05/28/07 09:31 AM
That story is totally beautiful!! Thank-you, Susan, for making Ralph's circle complete.
by Bonnie 05/28/07 09:12 AM
What a beautiful story.
by Maria 05/28/07 09:11 AM
It's stories like these that allow me to hope that there really are GOOD people in the world
by Brenda 05/28/07 05:29 AM
Susan, I was happy to read about adventure with Ralph, Rosemary and dear BettyJane. it' grace this old world is missing. No one seems to care about much anymore. Grace be with you and family.
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