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Mother on uneasy mission
Miss Denise wants her son's killer found and an end to violence.
By ABHI RAGHUNATHAN
Published June 4, 2007
"I still remember the softness of his face and I've touched so many boys faces, since the time my son died. I still haven't found that touch, that feel." said Denise Swisher. Standing in front of her "wall of love" filled with momentos for her slain son Forbes "P-Nut" Swisher just days before the 1-year anniversary of her son's death in her St. Petersburg home.
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"It's not acceptable that he's gone. And I refuse to be okay with the fact." said Denise Swisher about her son Forbes "P-Nut" Swisher's murder. Swisher sits at his grave at Woodlawn Cemetery.
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ST. PETERSBURG - For days after her son's death, Denise Swisher couldn't eat or sleep. She spent hours by his grave, sinking into a private hell like so many other mothers of slain teenagers. Then she fought back. She began walking the streets, handing out fliers and talking to the city's most troubled youths: students afraid of being beaten or shot, girls who had gone too far with their boyfriends, teens whose street personas melted as they awaited a prison sentence. She begged them to stop the killing. Don Quixote had better odds tilting at windmills. But when Miss Denise spoke, the city's toughest kids actually listened. They wept with her and called her at night. She shooed away bullies and settled their disputes. "P-Nut" Swisher's mom became a mother to the city's youth, a warrior against murder. By all accounts, she succeeded. For seven months after she began her crusade, not a single person was killed by gunfire south of St. Petersburg's Central Avenue. "Not having a shooting death in that area in that length of time is pretty much unheard of," said Sgt. Mike Kovacsev, the head of the Police Department's homicide unit. He calls Swisher's impact "profound." Miss Denise isn't surprised. She believes in the kids everyone else dismisses at first glance. Even if they still haven't come forward with the one thing she wants more than anything. She went to high school near Tallahassee, worked as a nursing assistant and had five kids. Forbes "P-Nut" Swisher was born on the way to the hospital. His chubby cheeks looked like they were full of peanuts, earning him the nickname. He grew up playing football and flirting with girls. He was 18, a prom court member who won acceptance to Bethune-Cookman College. He had his mother's large, dark eyes and smooth, rounded cheeks. And a smile so bright that it was voted the prettiest at St. Petersburg High School. He was close to his father and stepfather. But everyone knew he was a mama's boy. "He was the only one of my boys who would slow-dance with me," said Swisher, now 36. On May 31, 2006, he visited her in the hospital, where she was having tests for asthma complications. He crawled on her bed and goofed around before asking for $20 for McDonald's. A couple of hours later, Swisher got some visitors: police officers and a chaplain. Did she have a son who went by the nickname P-Nut? Grief, then anger A friend had called P-Nut, asking for his help. Dozens of kids were fighting. At some point, a couple started firing guns. P-Nut was hit in the head. For city police, 2006 was unfolding as a bloody year. Tensions were flaring between kids from Childs Park and Bethel Heights. P-Nut's death marked the department's 11th homicide investigation of the year, part of a string of killings of young black men. And a hot summer lay just ahead. A little over 20 homicides a year had been the norm in St. Petersburg. In 2005, the death toll shot up to 30. Police were concerned, said Maj. Michael Puetz. As the feud escalated, Miss Denise turned half of her living room into a memorial to her son. A huge poster of him hangs on the wall, next to dozens of photos. Stacks of thick binders hold mementos from P-Nut's life. Her grief turned to anger as she spent her days in her apartment and at his grave at Woodlawn Cemetery: "I couldn't let this happen to any other child." So she made photocopies of a flier and recruited other mothers of slain children to walk the streets, like her cousin Alicia Roberts. "Hi sweetie, how are you doing? I'm P-nut's mom. You know how he was killed," she would say. "Don't let another mother bury her child." She kept at it for months, until her asthma forced her into the hospital. But kids kept calling. "Miss Denise, can you help?" "Miss Denise, can I come over and sit?" "Miss Denise, Miss Denise ..." The killings slowed. The city recorded 21 homicides in 2006, but no shooting deaths south of Central Avenue after August. "She somehow found a way to take this egregious loss of her own and turn it into something positive," Puetz said. "At the end of the day, seeing the grief of a mother helped abate these issues." Witnesses needed Diontae "Smoke" Lovett, 20, has been arrested on cocaine possession; his brother was killed. Miss Denise understands. "She knows how to talk to me," he said. "Anybody else, I can't talk to." Shellie Long, 25, is another one with a reputation. He comes over to her apartment, visits her in the hospital. When he and his buddies listen to her, they think: "That could have been me that got killed." So why won't the kids who know about P-Nut's killing come forward? "I don't know," Lovett said. "I can't tell you why," Long said. Miss Denise knows teenagers who go to the police can be branded as snitches and turned into outcasts. But she wants her son's killer to be prosecuted. "I hear of other mothers who are going to court to receive justice for their sons," she said. "Why isn't there any justice for my son?" Kovacsev, the head of the homicide unit, said police think they know who killed P-Nut, but can't make an arrest because witnesses won't testify. The lack of cooperation is frustrating, said Detective Ron Noodwang, the lead investigator into P-Nut's death. "It's sad to know that nobody's taking responsibility for the death of your child," he said. "It's sad to know that your own kid's best friends were out there. They'll tell her and their parents stuff. But when they come to speak to us, it's completely different." 'This is my job' It's Saturday night. About 500 teenagers are in Campbell Park for a Rest in Peace party for P-Nut and Antonio "Pac-Man" Roberts, Swisher's cousin. Pac-Man was killed in 2005. Miss Denise can't walk more than a few feet at a time. One teenager begs her to talk to a young woman who's drinking even though she's pregnant. "Can you promise me you're not pregnant?" Miss Denise asks. The girl silently stares at the ground. Miss Denise snatches the drink, dumps it on the grass and throws the cup away. "This is my job," she says. More kids come up to her with hugs, like 17-year-old A.D. Harris. "Miss Denise, I love you, I got you," he tells her. As she walks through the party, she reaches out to kids with hugs and smiles. She rubs their cheeks. She used to touch P-Nut's cheeks every day. "I've touched so many boys' faces since the time my son has died and I still haven't found that touch, that feel," she said. "I need to feel that feel, and I know it's not possible." Times researcher Carolyn Edds contributed to this report. Abhi Raghunathan can be reached at araghunathan@sptimes.com or (727) 893-8472. Fast Facts: To help Anyone with information can call police at (727) 893-7164 or (727) 892-5545.
[Last modified June 3, 2007, 23:40:06]
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by mychera
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10/23/07 03:02 PM
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ma, i cant say i understand how you feel because i havent lost anyone that close to me, but i just want to let you know that i love you and pnut will always be here, not physically but mentally and spiritually! imma keep you in my prayers! i love you
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by Brandy
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06/23/07 01:57 PM
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My heart goes out to this mother. For everything there is a reason, and although someone very special to her has died it has opened the door for great things to happen. More parents need to be proactive and take time to listen to their teenagers.
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by Wendy
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06/22/07 02:40 PM
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My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I have 3 boys of my own in which I pray every day that God will deliver from the streets. You are a inspiration to me for being so strong and courageous!
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by tiffanye
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06/22/07 12:16 PM
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My prayers are w/you,as a mother and
product of this community, it's long
overdue for someone to standup and take action, and responsibility.These senseless deaths are a result of failed leadership,parenting,& education.It
takes a village.
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by jacobie
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06/19/07 09:33 AM
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I'm sorry about your son P-NUT I am so so so sorry about his death . tel, him said R I. P
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by savannah
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06/19/07 09:32 AM
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I am so sory for you that your little boy had gotten shot but at least he is in a better place now i give a my love to you and god will take care of him!
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by Kirsten
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06/19/07 09:31 AM
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I am so glad that the mother is working to find the killer. There can't just be someone like that roaming around. Plus, I think that is so wrong that someone would do that. That makes me very happy to be alive today.
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by Tina
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06/19/07 09:31 AM
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I know the pain of losing a family member to violence. Keep searching for the truth, and you will find it. Keep believing in God, and he will comfort you. The road may seem long and hard, but it will have a brighter ending for you and p-nut.
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by muriel
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06/19/07 09:27 AM
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i'm proud of p-nut's mom because she's being strong about the lost of her son and best wish to her and to the family
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by harris
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06/19/07 09:27 AM
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That is so sad because black people got to kill and some of the things people fightin about ant all that.
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by michelle
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06/18/07 01:56 PM
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I am proud of p-nut mom, because ,as a single mom she is a powerful and determined women, no weapon form again her shall prosper!don't give up god is in the midst,prayer changes thing.
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by Letha
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06/18/07 08:23 AM
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I wish some one could touch my grandson cheeks and talk some sense in his head, let him know that he is loved even though his dad doesn't care and his mom is on crack, that you are loved DeJuan. My God continue to bless you Denise.
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by alexandra
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06/14/07 09:04 AM
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I fell for peanuts mom because it is hard to survive in a neighborhood like that
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by nerf
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06/13/07 10:11 AM
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being that im a student at a school i seekids end up in violence about once a week i seen a a teenager get beaten to a pulp and the kid go arrested
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by Denise
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06/12/07 02:23 PM
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My son was shot in the head and was just an innocent bystander. Although he survived he remains paralyzed. The shooter was finally caught and sentenced to 25 years mandatory in prison. Jutice does prevail. Miss Denise don't give up. We waited 3yrs
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by NJ
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06/12/07 12:18 PM
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As a teacher, I see violence escalate because the parents teach the kids-"D0 NOT BACK DOWN-FIGHT BACK!" Where does it end? I tell them, "Turn the other cheek." They laugh at that suggestion. What should I do? I need advice.
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by Roy
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06/12/07 08:33 AM
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God Bless Ms Denise for her work with the kids after a loss like she sustained. Afterall they are our future if we don't do something they won't have a future.
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by Tisa
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06/11/07 02:30 PM
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I'm deeply moved by the courageousness of these mother's who are demanding their presence be felt with today's youth. People write off teenager's and I don't know why, but stay strong Denise and Diane, even when it seems hopeless you are saving lives
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by CHEVETTA
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06/10/07 09:53 PM
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I THINK THAT WHAT YOU ARE DOING FO YOUNG TEENAGERS IS THE BEST THING A PERSON CAN DO FOR THEM. REACH OUT TO THEM AND LET THEM KNOW THAT LIFE COULD BE PERFECT ON EARTH IF U LIVE IT RIGHT. STOP ALL THESE HATE CRIMES AGAINST EACH OTHER.U ARE DOING GOOD
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by Lee
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06/05/07 02:48 AM
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Being a teacher, it is great to see others in the community helping these kids.The sad thing is that they will not return the favor. I hope they will learn the true meaning of courage and name the people who killed her son.The right path is not easy.
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by Gilbert
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06/04/07 04:41 PM
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Ms. Swisher, my heart goes out to you for your loss. I know it is frustrating for you and extremly heartwrenching. Please do not stop or give up, we need to touch our youth's hearts and mind. I encourage you to not give up! God Bless.
Truth is comin
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by wayne
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06/04/07 04:03 PM
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Come on folks, you know who did it, turn him in, and give this mother some semblance of justice. To be strong is to know the right thing, and do it. Not "snitching" is really what's weak.
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by Carol
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06/04/07 02:28 PM
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Thank heaven for people like Miss Denise. What a strong, compassionate, and smart woman!
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by Kristi
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06/04/07 02:12 PM
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We all need more mother's like this woman. I hope u find those boys who are responsible. I commend u for what u are doing. U are someone who has to be a wonderful mother & know P-Nut is smiling on you right now for who you are & for how fight for him
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by STACY
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06/04/07 01:01 PM
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Remember it takes a village and within that village there needs to be a leader and Miss Denise is the leader of the village. Now she needs more leaders to stand up and tell who is responsible for the death of her son P-nut. God Bless You to continue
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by Eric
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06/04/07 11:44 AM
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It basically boils down to,these kids NEED PARENTS.... LOVING PARENTS... People that care... This is one loving mother and God bless her and her fight to end the mindless deaths that occur every year.
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by James
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06/04/07 11:21 AM
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Great job Miss Denise. Thank you for all your efforts and it's paying off. No police or caritable org is more effective that someone in your nieghborhood. Just think if all mother's of murdered sons and daughters united on this one cause.
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by Mike Tee
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06/04/07 10:46 AM
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My hat goes off to this young mother and her efforts to bring closure to her
sons death. And just reading this article touches my heart and ask those
who know something to man up because with peace comes peace of mind for all.
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